Marriage experts will tell you to spend your first year of marriage together without making major decisions or changes...you know, no major stresses like moving, changing jobs, etc.
This morning at breakfast, we fell into a discussion of how long we'd been together and how fast it has flown.
At the time we married, we were both close to 50. We married on a Friday and moved into a new house we bought the following week. Then, 2 months later, we both went back to school by taking an accelerated college program - doing 2 years in 1 year - by attending class 8 hours a day both Saturday and Sunday, every other weekend.
On top of that, Wild Bill did a major job changed that required him to travel every month for training. Somehow we got through that first year, and all the years since, but we both agreed we wouldn't do that first year again like that.
Then this afternoon we saw on Yahoo headlines that, after 40-plus years together, Danny Devito and Rhea Pearlman separated. Wow. They appeared to be the perfect couple.
A little later Wild Bill quietly said, "I hope you don't leave me after 40 years."
"Don't worry" I said, "If you haven't escaped by now Bill, you'll never be free."